Have you ever thought about ‘What makes you tick’ regards achieving your health and fitness goals?
What makes you want to do something? What makes you want to go to the gym? What makes you want to go through the pain of a transformation, whatever that transformation is?
I recently took on a new client, by the name of John. I asked him: “What’s your number one reason for booking this appointment today”?
John’s answer was like lots of new clients: “I’d like to lose weight”
So John and I will be working together – setting up mindset, nutrition and exercise support systems to help him achieve his 10kg weight-loss goal.
During our initial meeting, I asked him – “So if you were to lose weight, what will that do for you? His answer was – “It will make me feel better.”
I returned with another question: “If you were to lose weight and it made you feel better, what would I do for you?”
He immediately answered – “It would give me more confidence!”
Now we’re heading in the right direction….. And we could dig deeper. People have many different reasons for wanting to commence an exercise program. But when you really dig deep, it is usually due to one or several of the following reasons:
Social acceptance. Self respect. And love
It comes down to somebody feeling like they want to appear to their social group in a certain way.
Whether they actually appear that way is completely irrelevant.
What matters is that they feel that they appear that way.
Perception becomes reality. That’s what’s really good about this, because that gets somebody’s to do an extra set of squats or show up at the gym.
In last week’s newsletter, I shared with you the importance of setting up systems to support your goals.
When I work with a new client, this is what happens….Here’s a hyperthetical scenario – A lady in her mid 40’s.
My initial goal is to figure out what her actual goal is.
She tells me “5kg loss in weight.”
But her goal isn’t to lose 5 kg.
Her goal is to feel sexy, to wear that red dress, she wore on the cruise with her husband, where she felt like every woman wanted to be like her, and every man wanted to be with her.
The goal is the red dress.
So, I figure out, what that is.
I say, okay, were going to build the red dress work out, and then were going to work backwards, and were going to design the behaviours, day in and day out, week in and week out, to get you that red dress.
Then, it’s just a matter of doing the day-to-day behaviours, because I know that she’s going to ultimately achieve her goal.
Whatever you think the behaviours are that are going to get YOU there. You set the goal, you work backwards, you establish the behaviours to get you there.
Then, you put all those behaviours in your schedule each week.
So, what happens if we haven’t establish these behaviours that we can stick to….? we simply jump to the next best thing.
In fitness, We jump to the next exercise program, the next celebrity diet or detox, for no other reason than we haven’t set this appropriate goal and systems to back it up.
You may have heard of the saying: If you want to have what others don’t, you’ve got to do, at one point in your life, what others won’t.
The purpose of setting goals is to win the game. The purpose of building systems is to continue playing the game.
True long-term thinking is goal-less thinking. It’s not about any single accomplishment. It’s about the cycle of endless refinement and continuous improvement. Ultimately, it’s your commitment to the process that will determine your progress.
If you’re looking for a lifestyle training programme that will increase your confidence, make you less anxious, and have you feeling good about you and your body, simply take the next steps to transformation by completing the short health questionnaire below the video